Countless reasons and situations require us to keep quiet than to speak. After all, we are built to actually listen more than we speak. However, this does not cancel the necessity for self expression.
If someone is matured mentally, she or he will be able to tell what they are thinking instead of expecting the other person to understand what is going on inside of them.
Specially women tend to ask (themselves) questions such as ‘Doesn’t he know? Can’t he see?’
Well no, ladies, men don’t see and don’t know until you tell them. Save yourselves some headache and speak out what goes on in your minds. One thing I love about men is that they are quite easy going; they talk and say what they think point-blank. That makes it easy for you to set the right expectations. Our expressive attitude, ladies, will encourage the men to be themselves while appreciating us for who we are, and that includes our thoughts.
So how to best express yourself?
Obviously, wisdom should be applied when communicating. you don’t want to hurt anybody with your statements, at the same time, you don’t want to pretend. Open, honest, friendly and respectful communication is the way to go – even immature minds will appreciate these qualities.
Either you are a man or a woman, strive to always express yourself. Tell the person you are relating to what the situation is, what your thoughts are, what your feelings are, what your impression is. Do not punish with silence and expect the other person to read your mind – we are not wired to be mind readers. You can and should develop the skill of self expression as it’s a crucial part of communication. Practice it with friends, family, colleagues, strangers – anywhere and with anyone. Consequently, this will give you great peace of mind in any type of relationship, it boosts your self confidence and promotes your credibility.
Keep in mind: If the person you are expressing yourself to is incapable of communication on that level, that person is probably not mature enough. Such person should develop in that area before you consider them a suitable candidate for a relationship (unless you prefer enduring heavy headaches).
What are your thoughts on this topic?
With love and gratitude,